Headaches

Dane has been hating to to to school lately.  He does not cooperate getting dressed and out of the door for my wife.  A lot has been going on and I need to catch up to date .  About the headaches, he says he gets them in the hallway and in the cafe during lunch break.  He says he doesn't get them at recess.  I put his earmuffs the school gave him in his backpack today thinking he would know to put them on when he needs them.

My wife quit the factory and got back into working at an Assisted Living with 34 residents to take care of as a CNA.  She took a 6 dollar pay cut but she enjoys her job and wants to be a nurse someday.  The time is now to figure out what we want and what I want is for her happiness.  Now for me to get on the ball and figure out a fullfilling career move for me.

My brother in law moved in with us with his 3 year old daughter and theres been drama.  He has no license, job, car and fighting for custody of his kid.  Not to mention his ex is preggers again and hes a 1/4 candidate of it being his...or not.  I am doing my best to stay out of it.  I have my own family and my own problems.

Dane also got prescription glasses.  He uses them in school and no where else.  At least he knows how to take care of them like a big boy.

The tranmission on our 06 Escape has been acting up.  I talked to the mechanic today and he says it may be a neutral switch.  It skips 2nd gear and goes from 1st to 3rd and the rpms reach almost 5k before switching gears.  He cant rule out the the  tranny may be going out. 

Dane is crazy about Angry Birds and he is really good at it.  He really concentrates like he is calculating in his head how to slingshot the bird and get the green pigs.  He gets past levels that I can't get past. It's amazing but I have to use it to my advantage to ground him from the  game when he hits and swears and doesn't listen.  He needs to understand the the game is a privaliage and he needs to earn it by being good at home as well as school.

A boy in class wanted a play date set up.  I talked to the father and we met at Mc|Donalds.  That went good except there was a birthday party and lots of loud kids running around.

Comming up is a neurological evaluation that the state passed that we do NOT need a doctors reference.  We have been having trouble twice getting a referral for Danes services for this test.  Now he has a date set from 9 in the morning to 3 at night.  Thats going to be a long day for the little man.

Things haven't been easy having another kid and grown adult who acts like a kid in my home.  On the contrary Dane has had less meltdowns since they moved in.  When he does have a meltdown it has been pretty agressive.  I think hes holding it in and then unleashes the dragon when enough is enough already.

Fixatin on pinwheels never stops.  It seems like he gets one and breaks it to fix it and then whine about getting more pinwheels. 

Dane is the leader in school tomorrow so I bought some cookies for his  class and he needs to take something to school for show and tell.  Im guessing it will be a pin wheel this  time.  The good news is that Danes class really likes him and looks up to him.  One day I got him out early to take him to his therapy and the whole class ran out to say goodbye.  I think a little hispanic girl has a crush on him
also. 

My brother Jeremy sold his house and is moving closer to my sister.  The way things are going in my town I may just throw in the towel at my dead end job and sell my house and move there as well.  The only thing left for me here are my parents.  Dane loves them so much and it would really break his heart to move.

What Meets ASD Criteria

Persistent deficits in social communication and social interaction across contexts, not accounted for by general developmental delays, and manifest by all 3 of the following disorders...

1. Deficits in social-emotional reciprocity; ranging from abnormal social approach and failure of  normal back and forth conversation through reduced sharing of interests, emotions, and affect and response to total lack of initiation of social interaction,

2. Deficits in nonverbal communicative behaviors used for social interaction; ranging from poorly integrated- verbal and nonverbal communication, through abnormalities in eye contact and body-language, or deficits in understanding and use of nonverbal communication, to total lack of facial expression or gestures.

3. Deficits in developing and maintaining relationships, appropriate to developmental level (beyond those with caregivers); ranging from difficulties adjusting behavior to suit different social contexts through difficulties in sharing imaginative play and  in making friends  to an apparent absence of interest in people

Restricted, repetitive patterns of behavior, interests, or activities as manifested by at least two of  the following disorders...

1. Stereotyped or repetitive speech, motor movements, or use of objects; (such as simple motor stereotypies, echolalia, repetitive use of objects, or idiosyncratic phrases).

2. Excessive adherence to routines, ritualized patterns of verbal or nonverbal behavior, or excessive resistance to change; (such as motoric rituals, insistence on same route or food, repetitive questioning or extreme distress at small changes).

3. Highly restricted, fixated interests that are abnormal in intensity or focus; (such as strong attachment to or preoccupation with unusual objects, excessively circumscribed or perseverative interests).

4. Hyper-or hypo-reactivity to sensory input or unusual interest in sensory aspects of environment; (such as apparent indifference to pain/heat/cold, adverse response to specific sounds or textures, excessive smelling or touching of objects, fascination with lights or spinning objects).

5 Symptoms must be present in early childhood (but may not become fully manifest until social demands exceed limited capacities)

6. Symptoms together limit and impair everyday functioning.