Saturday, June 13, 2015

Divorce

It's hard to believe how fast time goes since I last posted anything.  They say the number of divorces are greater raising a child with special needs.  I confirm this because I am in the divorce club myself.

My story begins on March 13th, 2014.  I arrived home from work at 2:30 p.m. to walk into my home and notice that the floor by the entry way was filthy.  As if my children were running in and out of the house without taking off their shoes.  I turn to see the desk I picked up around the block and brought home was gone.  The rabbit cage next to the desk was also gone.  It hasn't hit me yet.  I know my wife was talking about moving that desk into the basement.  

I walked into the living room and the new 42" television is gone.  I run back to my bedroom and my queen size bed, dresser are gone.  The children's bunk beds are gone.  All the toys, clothes and 2 of the 3 cats are missing.  

I go up to the school and my wife had not taken them that day.  I went to her place of work. She quit her job.  I went to the police station. She went there saying she was leaving town in case I go looking for them. The cop tells me it's civil and they can't get involved.  My life is upside down.  Where are my children?!

3 days go by and still no call or known where she is with our children.  I've called everyone.  Only her dad would talk to me and he said, "She couldn't have gone too far."  He asked me how my truck was.  He gave my wife $1500 to fix the transmission.  She lied to him to get money from him.  She filed our taxes and routed all the money into her account.

I call the principal and plead with him that my wife is gone with our kids and I don't know where they are.  I ask if any kind of transfer comes in he needs to tell me.  I am trying to get her for truancy.

2 weeks go by and I get a voice mail at work.  The message says that my children are being enrolled in a school out of state..1300 miles away!  I call my dad and he is in total shock as am I.  My sister was on vacation with her husband and my father told them over Skype where she is and they can't believe it.

Now that she is out of state the police are willing to help me.  There is an investigation that takes place.  In this  point of time I have gotten a lawyer to get me joint custody and placement not knowing where she is.  Now that I know what shes done I go for full custody of our children.  I go to court and she doesn't show.  I won full custody and placement of our children.  It will take 3 more weeks and another lawyer in that state to help me get my kids back home.  We wait for the court order to be domesticated and my family and I are on our way to get them home.

I knew my wife was up to something.  Always on her phone or the computer..smiling and laughing.  Locking herself in the bathroom or daughters bedroom.  She would tell me she had work seminars to go to and be gone for up to 5 days.  I believed this.  I supported her.  If this was a way to work up the latter so be it.  "Have a good time," I'd tell her.  Little did I know she was flying halfway across the country shacking up with someone she met on the internet.

It was 5 weeks to the day my family took the 19 hour drive.  3 stops to refuel to get them back with us.  We got to the lawyers office.  He had the court order delivered into their court system and we were off the that school she enrolled them in.  By the next day they were back in my arms in the principals office in tears of joy.  We made a little vacation of the ordeal because there was the process of serving her more court papers and another hearing involved.

It has been a over a year since this nightmare took place and they are happy and doing very well in school.  My life is no different without my lying, cheating, narcissistic wife.  She never contributed financially or emotionally to me or our kids.  I've been a single dad for years and never realized I did all the work to raise my family.  All I wanted was as happy family and now I have it without the likes of her.  A year in April and she has never attempted to come back to see them or even send home some of their personal possessions.  I couldn't imagine not seeing my kids grow up.  It doesn't seem to bother her much.  She is so selfish and we are so better off without her.  Dane has not had any major meltdown since hes been home.  She was the cause of all the drama in my household.

May 4th the final judgement for divorce was finalized.  I was awarded sole custody and placement again. She never attempted to come back to the state.  Was an affair really worth it?  Apparently to her it was.  She's only sorry because she got caught.  The court has allowed her phone contact with our children and supervised visitation.  I don't see anything other than that of phone contact.  They have talked to her about 10 times in the past couple weeks now.  All they wanna know of her is when she's coming back and where is their stuff?  Pretty sad they'd rather have their personal items back instead of their mother.  They are angry with her.  I don't blame them.  What kind of mother abandons their children?