Issues & Injury

Yesterday I talked to Danes teacher who said he got a time out for throwing wood chips at other kids.  He came back into the school crying and hitting the wall.  I asked him if anything happened in school and he did tell me he got into trouble.  I told his teacher that this is the behavior issues we have with him at home.  If we tell him "no" he throws an attitude.  He hits us, himself, the wall, throws, knocks over...uncontrollable!

Today he must have been upset from the incident still.  He was a handful for my wife to keep him calm.  I called home from work to see how things were going.  She said she kept him home from school.  When they got home to get ready to take Dane to school he started banging his head on the floor.  He got a big bump on his head.  He also gave himself a nosebleed from hitting his head.  I sat in my car at work just shaking my head wondering what we're going to do about this behavior.

I got him this ball called "perplexus."  I thought he'd like it.  It's like a little marble you roll around these obstacles from start to finish.  He likes it but he gets mad at it.  He got upset at something and started hitting himself with the ball.  He put a dent in it so I had to take a screw and pull out the dent.

When Grandpa came over to visit we took my vehicle to put air into the tire because the low tire pressure light was on.  Since I was putting air into my tire I thought I'd pump up the kids hopper balls. When we got home Dane didn't like how hard the ball was so he started hurting his teeth and pulled out the plug.  I let some air out and he was fine.  His attitude and behavior really has me concerned.

He swears, hits and has unbelievable outbursts lately.  I am thinking were are getting to the point of having in home services to work with him instead of driving him to a clinic.  I thought those services were doing well with him but now I think we need to change our plan of action.

Dane really thinks and asks questions that makes my jaw drop.  He asked me how many rocks there are in space.  "4?" he asks.  I said, "Well, the moon is one big rock and the stars are all rocks that are on fire."  He then asks why they are on fire. 

Disrespect / Defiance

Is it too much to ask for a little respect from my kids?  I tell them to do something and I get "Shut Up"  in a under tone voice.  I also get told to "Go Away", "Be Quiet", "Your Naughty" and "Your not my best friend anymore!"

I have also heard some swear words lately.  Dane kept saying the F word over and over before bed.  I told him that is a naughty word and that's not nice to say.  I also told him that it makes daddy sad and that he will get in trouble in school for saying that.  Not to mention I heard him say G*d Da**it when angry.

Yesterday Dane was just waking up from a short nap.  Allyson was playing with one of his tractors.  He ran up behind her and slapped her bare back leaving a hand print.  That was the hardest he has ever hit her.  She did nothing to deserve that.  He got a 5 minute time out for that.

Usually when he got a time out he would go to his room and slam the door.  Then he would lay on the floor and do a bicycle kick shaking the entire house.  He broke the trim off he kicks so hard.  This time out was different.  He stayed in there the entire time and was quiet.  He didn't put up a fight.  I think it clicked that he really did something wrong and knew he deserved this discipline.

When Dane gets tired he is at his worst.  He keeps bugging Ally.  She cries and screams at him.  He is wired up and doesn't listen.  Does he not understand what I am saying?  Is he ignoring me?  He bangs his head on me, on Ally's back, on his knee and on the arm of the couch.  He makes moaning noises and laughs.

My wife has been taking him for a short drive to get him away when he is like that.  I stay home with Ally and she drives him around the park.  It is a big difference when he gets back in the house.  He is calmed down.  I don't know what it is but that short drive settles him down.  Maybe he is so over stimulated that he needs time alone on a quiet drive around town.  I will have to ask the therapist what we can do for stimulating games for him to settle himself down when he is like this.

It's funny though.  Dane has been coming up to me asking for squeezes.  I give him a tight hug and hold him for a minute or two.  I ask how he is and he says he's better.   It has to be sensory related.  He acts naughty but can't help it possibly.  He doesn't answer when we tell him not to be doing something wrong.  He is off in his own world.